There's some things in life that I really don't get; Twilight; watersports; children; maths... and feminism.
Now I'll be honest; its something that I've never really looked into, and you may say that I therefore can't have a reasonable opinion without fully exploring their points of view. However, the reason that I have not looked into it is because of the opinions expressed by people who believe in feminism, because I think those opinions are uptight, biased, bitter and unequal.
Okay hang on a second before you leap to burn me at the stake. I know I'm opening a dangerous can of worms here, but it's something that's always really baffled me because there seems to be no common sense behind it. I'm as up for women as the next girl, and I defend my sex, but it seems to me (and maybe this is an unfair view, but I'm just taking the time to express my own - possibly flawed - opinion) that feminism calls for women to be something they're not.
I was posting in a community and reading others' comments, and I read a comment that said "until women aren't scrutinized as "unladylike" and wrong when they act like normal people and not like delicate angels, women aren't being treated equally. ". I'd like to stress, this is not an attack on the original poster, I'm just using this as an example because its current, and if you're reading this, and it was your comment, sorry to pick on you. Also, its taken out of context here clearily - I'm just addressing the issues within. I don't understand why women have to behave like men, and it not to be scoffed at for us to be equal. We are barely the same species as it is. Men and women are meant to be different, and act differently, and look different and have different outlooks. If we were the same, things would be seriously wrong. But it really does seem to me that feminists seek to be as manly as humanly possibly, and on some sort of driven mission to lose all of their femininity.
To be honest, I don't like seeing men spitting either. Nor would a like to see a man scratching his arse on court. But I would like to see a man accidently flash his arse on court if I personally found him attractive *cough*roger*cough*. So why are some women determined to demand "equality" while actually setting different standards for what that equality is and encompasses?
I mean, camp men get all sorts of shit for not acting like men, and there's no menimist movement for their rights. (Gay rights is completely different)
I also don't see why using good-looking women in adverts (eg. that Virgin Airways Advert that caused so much fuss) is exploitation of women. The whole point of that advert was the empowerment of women. If you look good you should flaunt it, and there's nothing wrong with wearing a short skirt that shows off your beautifully shaved legs (because you think they're your best feature) to get a bit of attention from the lads because its nice to feel good about yourself physically once in a while. I think like anything it has to be in moderation is all, and our world seems to determined to slap a label on everything and give you a six step self-help guide to get around perfectly natural things. Just because a woman is good-looking does not mean she is thick. She could be going home to read about quantum-physics.
Apparently its offensive because only good-looking women were used in the advert. Listen to yourself.... just for a moment... please.
Why should I break my back to lift a bag of horsefeed on my own, when there's a perfectly muscular, capable man over there who could lift it for me:
1.) Without breaking a sweat?
2.) Feel good about himself for being a manly man grr?
3.) When he is built for more strenuous physical labour while I am built for asking directions and creating new life?
There's nothing wrong with acting lady-like. Are you trying to tell me ladies, that you would take a man standing in the street with his shirt off, spitting, knocking back a beer and swearing rather than a man standing at a dinner dance wearing a tuxedo sipping a martini and talking about ... I don't know, love poetry, or Shakespeare or... tennis?
Alright, extreme example, but you would take the man who would help you up if you fell and pulled your chair out at dinner and text you to check you hadn't got raped on the way home rather than the one who laughed when you tripped, sat down after letting the door slam in your face and snog you before fucking off to the bar next door, would you not?
I remember hearing a story about a woman slapping a man in the face for holding the door open for her. What the hell is that about? That's manners regardless of the genders involved. Surely she would have felt more inclined to slap him if it had broken her nose after him?
And... thank you QI, for finally proving that "equal prize-money for men and women" in tennis is in fact, a mis-nomer, and is definitely NOT EQUAL. Men play best of five, women best of three. Women play less and therefore can enter more events, which means in the end, in fact, they actually earn more by entering doubles events and the like. They play less, but they get paid the same. That's not equality that's favouritism. Again a double standard. And don't give me the tosh about they have to train and work and exercise the same amount, because in an exam you don't get more marks for studying for longer. You get marks for what you put down on the page on the day.
If women want equality, then they need to suck it up and act like fucking men, like they all seem so determined to do at the expense of their own damn hormones.
Sorry if I offended you. I just seem to be decidedly non-feminist, and more of a.... Equali...tist?